Why (some) Chinese girl like foreigners?

Comme vous pouvez le lire dans cet article « Avantages et inconvénients d’être un laowai en Chine », un des avantages d’être un laowai en Chine est (si vous êtes célibataire) qu’il n’est vraiment pas difficile de séduire des femmes Chinoises. Fabrice, du blog Costa-Rica, m’a demandé pourquoi. J’ai décidé de poser la question à Mata, une amie Chinoise. Voici sa réponse (en anglais) :

1. Chinese women constrain too long time.

Chinese women constrain too long time around more than 2000 years. They need to Ideological emancipation, enjoy life. Do what they want to do. You know many Chinese women have to get married before 30, some even 25. Whatever the guy they love or not, they make family for living, for showing, for their Parents, relatives and friends. So, guess there are some women start to say no to it. Start to try new things, start to get freedom.

2. Foreigners look like pretty and cool for some girls.

Foreigners look like pretty and cool for some girls. Looks is good. For me, so many Chinese guys look like ugly, fat, even thin, not pretty. No big blue eyes, no romantic, not gentleman. They spit everywhere and don’t make their body, their hair and clothes clean. Some smell bad. Also, there have many other points: temperament, connotation, thinking, aesthetic, growth environment, culture, religion..

For example: if a foreigner wanna pick up a girl in bar, they will just come and say hi. Just talk. I never see any foreigner say like « oh I just lost a game with friends, so they let me talk to you. I have to dance with you. I have to hold you one min. Can I? » It always happens for when Chinese guy trying to pick up girls. They make excuse for protect their face, they don’t know that using the words « I have to » means « I don’t want to but I have to »…

It sounds very very rude and piss me off. For example: if a Chinese girl got a Chinese boyfriend, then she will lost all freedom, she can’t even going to the bars with girls friends, they go any places, they have to ask the boyfriend  » Can I go ? » The boyfriend will ask « Go with whom? Do I know them? blablabla.. » At the end, the reply can be: « No, you cannot go ». Then girls don’t go out. loool. I know some girl’s husband don’t let her talk to any other guys, don’t let her online to chat. So, Chinese guys are so selfish, stupid, love control and are not self-confident.

3. Foreigners are fun and open minded.

Foreigners are fun and open minded. You won’t be stalk by them in bars or life. When you say no, they will go away. Chinese guys, however you showing you don’t like them, they still keep on call you, bother you, stalk you. You say “Hi!” to foreigners; it’s just like a hello. You says “Hi!” to Chinese guys, they will think « This girl loves me!!! ». Also, in china, many girls thinks like if guy looks good, then must not faithful, so they prefer get some fat or ugly Chinese guys only for safe. But those Chinese girls are pretty. There are many pretty girls, less pretty Chinese guys, which explain this situation. So, for us, we prefer go to find some foreigners pretty guys, we won’t surrender to get those stupid boyfriends. I know many girls just don’t want those guys. They even became lesbian. Cuz girls much more pretty and clean and smell well in China!!!

4. Maybe some others think foreigners are rich

Maybe some others thinks foreigners are rich, have a lot of money. Or they really wanna leave China, Go out to see the world. Those different thinking all depends on different people. I only can tell, it’s all their freedom. I don’t want green card or leave China forever. I still love Beijing a lot.

Conclusion (in French)

Cet article est désormais terminé. Je remercie à Mata pour son témoignage. Que pensez-vous de cet article ? J’attends vos réactions / This article is now finished. I thank Mata for her testimony. What do you think about this article? About men/women relationship in china? You can post your reactions here

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4 Responses to “Why (some) Chinese girl like foreigners?”

  1. Romain Be dit :

    ça fait partie de la culture asiatique. La plupart des asiatiques européens sont beaucoup plus timide que les homologues européen.

    On dit aussi que les hommes du nord sont moins ouvert que les personnes venant du sud. Par exemple, il est rare qu’un allemand ou un suédois aborde une fille dans la rue alors qu’en France ou en Espagne, ça fait partie de la culture.

  2. martin dit :

    En effet, la majorité des Chinois sont timides. Lors d’une soirée en boîte, je motivais un Chinois a danser avec deux jolies filles, mais il n’osait pas… Mais il faut dire qu’ils ont la pression et qu’avant l’université, meme les professeurs découragent les jeunes à avoir un copain/une copine pour rester concentré sur leurs études…

    Pour le reste, le soleil influence sans doute largement les comportements et les modes de vie. En Italie, pays latin, les gens sortent et socialisent beaucoup plus en extérieur qu’en France par exemple. Pour le reste, je ne connais pas trop l’Allemagne ou la Suède, merci pour ton retour.

    PS: En Chine, c’est les filles qui abordent les hommes parfois aha

  3. Fabrice dit :

    Merci Martin pour cet « interview » très instructif, d’ailleurs je serais en Chine début 2014, l’occasion de vérifier si les chinoises aiment bien les français 😉

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